A powerful time to let go of the gunk that’s keeping you STUCK

Letting go of the gunk

Now is a powerful time to let go of the gunk that’s keeping you STUCK.

Do you feel overwhelmed and unproductive? Or maybe you keep procrastinating on that thing you want to get done or accomplish. Do you feel like you’re in a spin cycle and tired of feeling the heaviness of stress. Or maybe imposter syndrome keeps creeping up and is holding you back from making that bold step. It’s time to let go.

All these negative emotions create gunk in our emotional tank, and it makes it almost impossible to feel joy. In fact, we may have moments of joy and happiness but they can be fleeting.

So how do we shift? How to we tip the scale in our favour to feel the better feels?

The answer to this is simpler than you might think. However, many of us are doing the one thing that is making it worse because it is what we have been taught from a young age.

The biggest thing that keeps us stuck is by ignoring our feelings or burying them. We tell ourselves, I should be grateful, look at the glass half full. And yes, this is true, but it is hard to do that when we ignore our feelings. If we bury our emotions because we feel guilty or less of a person to have them, we make it worse. We create slug in our emotional tank. When we build this sludge up over the years, we leave little room for joy and happiness.

The key to shifting with ease is to feel what you are feeling, to validate your feelings, to honour and respect your feelings so you can heal. When we do this the most amazing thing happens. We shift. We feel better. The heavy emotions no longer hold us hostage and we have created the space to let in the good.

So, if you are ready to get unstuck, follow along with me in this simple tapping exercise to let go and be free.

Tapping video link HERE

by Julie Cass

www.thepositivechange.com

Feel Empowered – Take Control of Your Life

Ever feel like things are so out of control in your life?

I know I have. When things feel out of control, they become overwhelming and heavy. It can cause great stress, anxiety and worse; over time if we don’t do something about this feeling, it can lead to chronic stress or depression.

The good news is that there are things we can do to take back control and really understand that we have the power to feel peace, to feel safe and to have faith.

I realized a long time ago when I was so tired of living in fear that I had to do something to feel better. The real change happened when I stopped waiting for my world to get right, before I could feel right.

I knew to change how I felt, I had to shift. It was and is the only way.

Here is fantastic news, you have the power to shift! And when you realize that by changing some of your internal programing, you can literally change how you feel and hence how you experience your life. You will be able to exhale because you realize that you are in control and always will be.

Ready to get into the driver’s seat of your life?

Here are some simple tools to use to take back your control and begin to smile more.

Ways to take control back and feel empowered in your own life:

 

Pay attention to the thoughts in your head:

Everything in our life begins with our thoughts. Our thoughts ultimately create how we experience our life. If something does not feel good the first things to ask are;

“What am I telling my self in this moment. What am I thinking in this moment?”

 

If you change your mind about the problem, it can’t exist:

I know this might sound so strange but it is true and it works. There cannot be a problem if you change your dialog or thought around it. Even if someone has done something to hurt you or upset you, you can still change your thoughts about it, you can change your STORY.

“Why is this showing up for me?

“What is my trigger?”

“What can I learn from this situation?

“What might be the wake up or the blessing here for me?”

“This is only temporary, this will pass, I will and can get through this, in fact I will thrive because of this!”

Start to change your internal dialogue and you will start to change how you feel. You will take more control back.

 

Turn Limiting Beliefs into Unlimiting Beliefs:

A belief dictates our life experiences but remember a belief is simply a thought that you have had for a long time and put on repeat. A belief is your belief, and if you don’t like how it is limiting you, then start to change your thought to reprogram your belief.

Have you ever noticed why success looks easy for some people? It is not because they have different tools then you, they just have a different belief than you. They believe that success is inevitable for them and hence they achieve it , attract it or manifest it.

Never underestimate the power of your beliefs and if they are in any way holding you in fear, then I recommend that you starting to change your internal program.

 

Prioritize yourself:

The biggest tool to take control of your life and feel more joy is to know without a doubt that “You are a priority”. When we grow the well of self love everything else in our life changes. We love ourselves deeper and others take cue on how to love us deeper. My book ‘Me First’ goes in-depth on prioritizing self.

When we prioritize ourselves we also prioritize feeling good so it becomes effortless to do things that feel good like eating healthy, getting enough sleep, moving our bodies etc.  We do this from a place of inspiration rather than by force, knowing that prioritizing ourselves must come first.

 

Surround yourself with positive influences and thoughts:

Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you, and limit time with negative influences.

Our sense of obligation can mislead us into spending time with toxic people. If spending time with certain people doesn’t feel good, then limit or eliminate it. I know sometimes this includes family and this can be difficult, but you are always in control of how much time you decide to spend or devote to people that seem to bring you down. This is having self-loving boundaries, if it doesn’t feel good then it isn’t.  Ask yourself: “What am I willing to tolerate? How much of myself am I willing to give?”

 

Take 100% responsibility:

When we don’t blame others for our unhappiness, we get our power back!

We are responsible for our own happiness and also for our own misery.

When you truly get this you can live the most empowered life with full control because when something doesn’t feel right you get to change it. Change it by your thoughts, your actions and your reactions.

Your body will never lie to you, so let it guide you on this beautiful journey, tune into your emotions and acknowledge them. And then when you are ready to feel better you simply start by changing your mind about it.

You have this power, you always have, your mind is a big muscle and it takes practice and persistence but it will listen, you will shift, and you will feel better.

Want more help?

Link to my sleep meditation to help with re-programing.

Link to learn about my Hypnosis Sessions.

Julie Cass

Making Yourself a Priority

Me First Bestselling book - make yourself a priority

“You become a better person by sacrificing yourself, putting your own needs second and other people’s needs first.” Does this statement sound familiar? It is a lie we have been told that we need to do this in order to be a better person. Nothing could be farther from the truth. 

It is time to let go of the stigma around putting “Me First”. 

It is no one else’s job to make you happy. You are the only one who can do this for you. So then the same holds true for others.  It is never your job to prioritize someone else before yourself, especially their happiness. You will fail every time as they are the only ones who can do it for themselves. 

What Does it Mean to Make Yourself a Priority?

Making yourself a priority is often confused with being selfish. Can you accomplish your dreams while you are drowning? Self-prioritization simply means putting yourself, your goals, and your visions first, because no one else can do it for you. It means letting go of the distractions that stop you from doing this and telling yourself “I am a priority” until you believe it. 

Creating a positive change in our lives and how we exist with others is crucial. To achieve this, one must be aligned to one’s core values, stay motivated, stay emotionally and physically resilient, and maintain a happy life. Oftentimes, however, we focus so much on delivering these values and making a difference in those around us, that we forget the most crucial element to success: our physical and mental health.

Making yourself a priority means you focus on these key elements of success. You prioritize what makes you happy, keeping your health and mental well-being at the forefront. It means focusing on the things that give you energy rather than what depletes you. It means upgrading the internal dialogue to that of deep self love and encouragement rather than self criticism. It means being intentional about prioritizing your happiness and loving yourself enough to choose happiness in life, from your career to your love interests to your daily habits.

Why Is it Important to Make Yourself a Priority?

Life will always have its ups and downs and the most important thing that gets us through is our perspective. When we do not prioritize ourselves it is very easy to not only lose perspective but also get angry and resentful. 

You need energy, bandwidth, and mental wellness to wake up every morning to seize the day. You can only achieve this state if you are focused on yourself and your goals. Most people get frustrated, stressed, and even fall into depression when they can’t accomplish their goals – mostly because they are busy taking care of others.

When you make yourself a priority, you build clarity around the boundaries. You can easily say ‘no’ even when the situation may be compelling you to say ‘yes.’ Agreeing to something that could affect your focus eats away at something inside of you – but not if you set clear boundaries.

Furthermore, prioritizing yourself allows you to stay true to yourself. It means you are constantly doing self checks of what feels good and when it doesn’t feel good it is a sign to pivot or gain a different perspective. When we stay true to ourselves we are able to keep on track with what lights us up and what gives us excitement. We also are able to have ample energy for the people and things we love because we are not constantly draining ourselves. 

Making Yourself a Priority Boosts your Productivity

Disorganization, which comes when you feel like you are being pulled in multiple directions, diverges your energy and focus, affecting productivity. You can create plans with a focus on specific paths to follow, which helps you achieve your goals when you put yourself first. Making decisions and acting organized enables you to focus your energy on a specific task, which leads to improved productivity.

10 Ways to Make Yourself a Priority

Here are 10 ideas you can follow to make yourself a priority.

  1. Set boundaries and keep them
  2. Have a consistent morning routine to set you up for success
  3. Understand that self-care is not a luxury – it’s a necessity
  4. Set aside time for yourself and mark it on the calendar
  5. Put more effort and value into your physical health – sleep well, eat well and exercise more.
  6. Tune into your feelings. They will always be the perfect guide to letting you know you are on track because it will feel good. 
  7. Listen to the “Self-talk” and upgrade the dialogue to more positive talk when necessary. 
  8. You are unique, so stop comparing yourself to others – follow a growth mindset instead.
  9. Always set aside time for appreciation – let yourself feel the things you are most grateful for.
  10. Focus on what is in your control only. The rest will drain your energy.

If you feel like you have been working too hard to impress others, it’s time to change that. It does not mean becoming selfish – just working more on yourself and ignoring the fear of what others may say or think. Don’t ignore your personal needs when striving to achieve your goals: self-prioritization = a happier and more fulfilling life. 

Remember: one key thing is the more we prioritize our happiness the bigger impact we have on those around us. 

Need more tips on how to put yourself first? Check out my book “Me First” to better understand how to prioritize yourself.